A Message from Pastor Craig: 6-23-2024

Two pastors that I have known well have passed away recently.  One of them just last week and I’m kind of reeling from it. His name was Tanner White.  Tanner came out of Tampa, went to Seminary, and through some mishaps that were beyond my understanding, did not have an appointment at the end of his Seminary stint.  Tanner or the District Superintendent, I don’t remember who, approached me about taking him on as another associate.  I found in him an incredibly gregarious young man, an odd mix of incredible drivenness (he was making good money as a medical recruiter even during seminary) and an innocence about the religious life, its complications, politics, demands, etc.  For the time that he was with us, I had three young associates, and our weekly pastoral staff meetings always included intense conversations, deep laughter and sincere prayer.  I had not experienced that ever before, and never will again.  That privilege was not lost on me, but conversely, I did not fully live into all the talent that was in the room for those years.  God is not done with me yet!  Tanner was 36 years old and now he is gone.

The other pastor I got to know over lunch.  I knew who he was but he didn’t know me.  He was well known and I wasn’t.  He was our Bishop, and I was just a pastor in Southwest Florida somewhere.  But one day at Annual Conference, I dared to ask him if he would be open to lunch someday, and to my surprise he said yes.  Now, I had to drive a couple of hours to meet him in his office, but we became friends through those times.  I learned a lot about his life, both professionally and personally, through the ensuing couple of years when I would
sporadically drive all the way to Lakeland for lunch.  He was older and wiser than me.  And substantially smarter too.  He could talk patristics at the drop of a hat.  Actually, at the drop of a hat he could speak authoritatively just about anything.  He was brilliant, and well read, and soft spoken.  And a bishop.  A wonderful mix that suited our Conference well.

He eventually asked me to be the District Superintendent of the Southeast District. That meant that I spent a lot more time with him in the last 3 years he remained the Bishop of Florida before he retired.  We still had lunch together occasionally during those years, which was a personal time with him that I cherished.  Timothy Whitaker had a lot to offer me as the younger pastor in ministry. I learned a lot from him…I appreciated the spirit in which he did everything, with charity and a lot of thought.  Bishop Whitaker was 75 when he passed away in March.

When you lose a retired pastor, you lose history.  You lose a sense of the past.  And you lose insight informed by years of failures and successes.  With Timothy Whitaker specifically, you lost a fountain of information on the distant past – he was known for the depth of his knowledge of the Early Desert Mothers and Fathers, and general church history.  We lost a theologian who brought personal and scholastic history into his sermons, writings and conversations.

When you lose a young pastor, you lose the future.  No matter what uncertainties lie in the future, you know who will confront them when you know younger people.  The church generally, and the United Methodist Church specifically, is headed into unchartered territories, and Tanner was the face of that new church.  As a matter of fact, Tanner was just ordained at the June Annual Conference as a Full Elder.  He literally was the youngest pastor in our midst.  We knew who was going to take on the future.  Or at least we thought we did.

We are diminished by anyone we lose.  Mathematically that is not significant, I know.  But as friends, as colleagues, as people who pour into our lives in different ways, when they are gone, we are diminished.  And I feel that in both bookends of my life right now.  I miss both T.W.’s.  I am better for having known them both.  And grateful to the Lord for the privilege.

Craig

Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his faithful servants.  Psalm 116:15

A Message from Pastor Craig: 6-16-2024

Recently a group of us went to a Marlins game together.  I had gotten a call from their marketing people saying that they had a “faith and family” night, and so a group of us braved the traffic to downtown Miami during rush hour (not the textbook time to drive to Miami), and ate Casola’s pizza (a sort of historical pizza place in Miami, and a favorite for working guys; it’s always packed at lunch time).  Anyway, we had a great time.  And the Marlins won!  If we were good luck charms, they should have invited us way earlier!

I read something yesterday that blew my mind.  Not about our church and not about the Marlins, but about professional baseball.  While watching the game last week, Janice and I had wondered about how they could get the close-up cameras onto the field like they do in football.  We couldn’t figure it out.  But it turns out others have been working on alternatives.

A couple of weeks ago now, a guy by the name of Kiké Hernández made an error at third base.  A ball came to him, it hit his bare hand, he flubbed it a little, eventually grabbing it and threw the ball to first base, but too late to get the runner out.

You know WHY he messed up?  He was being interviewed for a radio show!  On the field!  While he was playing.  And the league?  They are the ones promoting it!  To the tune of $10k for regular games, and $15 large for post-season games!  Have you counted the exclamation points here!?  What could go wrong with that?  For instance, it’s the fourth game of the World Series, there’s a full count, bottom of the ninth, the pitcher is aiming the ball in his head, mindful of the 15 second clock winding down on the side, when through his earphone he hears Gomer Pyle asking him “how ya feelin’?’  Oh wait, that’s what happened to ol’ Kiké.  He was on the phone when the ball came his way!  Who could possibly think you will get the best performance from an athlete while they are involved in a conversation with somebody elsewhere?  How about this example. Tiger Woods is about to tee off, the crowd is hushed, the announcers are whispering little nothings, and over Tiger’s headphones someone asks “how’s your love life?”  What could go wrong with that?!

We live with a lot of distractions.  It’s against the law to drive distracted, but distractions bombard us whether we are driving, working, studying, or anything.  Those distractions affect our work and even our conversations.  If Janice had a dime for every time I have asked her to repeat her last sentence, she’d be a rich woman.  I create my own distractions, never mind putting another conversation in my earpiece.

I think we often talk to God distracted.  We only say short prayers because, if we elaborate with Him, we end up thinking about something else, and “Squirrel!” we’re off thinking about something else, and have to apologize to the Lord when we eventually come back.  We need to work at having less distractions, and hence focusing on what is before us.  All conversations are important, and whether with God or with other people, they deserve our full attention.  Just like the game deserves Kiké’s, or anybody else’s carrying on a conversation on the field for an extra $10,000.00.

I’m sorry, what was I saying…?

The Reverend Craig Nelson

All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.  Proverbs 14:23

A Message from Pastor Craig: 6-9-2024

Is it true that absence makes the heart grow fonder?  You’ve heard the expression many times I’m sure, maybe even used it when missing somebody, or realizing they’re not there.  As I write this, I am having such an experience, not with a person, but with a thing.

That thing is called A/C.  The A/C in our home died four days ago, right before the weekend—of course!  The technicians couldn’t get an order in soon enough, so we have been dealing with the heat here on 10th Ave!  It really is OK, but I will tell you: not having A/C truly reminds me of the blessing, no, I’m going to call it necessity, of A/C.

Historians as well as myself could wax eloquent on the history of A/C to the direct correlation of the advent of A/C to the boom of Florida residents.  Of course lots of people lived here before A/C, but they were hardy people, pioneering-type people. The masses came once you could cool your personal space down.

So, obviously, people can live without A/C, but like any potent drug, once you have found relief in feeling it, you don’t want to go back.  And that’s where I sit today, waiting for the technicians to come with our new A/C like a puppy looks out the window waiting for the school bus in the afternoon.

I know that I will celebrate when they come. I will dance when it gets connected, and crank that thing down so low that Janice will be wearing a parka!  By this evening though, I will have forgotten all about it, carrying on as we normally do along with the rest of normal Floridians.  I will take it for granted just as I did back last Thursday before it died.  So did the A/C’s absence make my heart grow fonder of it?  Well, right now, sure.  By tonight… not so much. 

Now all of this has been about air conditioning, but it’s probably not what the saying refers to.  What about people?  Do their absences make our hearts grow fonder?  I don’t know.  Maybe it depends on what you mean by “fondness.”  I remember when Janice and I were engaged.  She lived in Texas and I lived in New York.  That was the time of the breakup of AT&T, and we benefited from a then-new long-distance company called Sprint.  We also benefited from an ill-fated airline called People Express.  We could tell you stories about that one!  We travelled as often as we could, as we missed each other, but I do think my heart grew fonder of her when I spent time with her.  The partings were harder and harder the more time we spent together, not the time we spent apart.

I think loving relationships grow as we spend time together.  What do they say – love is spelled T-I-M-E?  Relationships are built around experiences and conversations, not spending time apart.  And so it is also with our relationship with God.  Spending a month full of Sundays away from church will not grow us closer to the Lord.  A year without cracking a Bible will not make us better children of God.  Hanging out with non-Christians will not better Christians make.  So I guess it should say “presence makes the heart grow fonder.”  The more time we spend with God, the more our love for Him will grow.  I think that works in the spiritual world and in the physical world.

And yes, the longer I have lived with A/C, the more I miss it when it’s gone!

Looking forward to a cool house this evening,

Craig

And let us consider how to spur one another on to love and good deeds.  Let us not neglect meeting together, as some have made a habit, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you see the Day approaching.  Hebrews 10:24,25