Happy Mother’s Day to you all. I hope this is a festive day for everyone, and as we come together for worship on this Mother’s Day, it certainly should be! We come to worship the Lord, and thank Him for all of His blessings in our lives.
A switch went off in my head many years ago when I realized that (at whatever point that was) I had lived longer in the United States than I had lived in Costa Rica. I only lived in Costa Rica for 11 years. They were the most formative years of my life – grades 1-11 (they only had 11 years of grade school there), but 11 all the less. And while my stay in Costa Rica felt like a lifetime (most of my childhood), the next 11 years were more of a whirlwind – college, grad school, marriage, and a management job in the financial sector. I remember the day sitting on our couch during the seminary years that I nostalgically realized I had then lived longer in the US than in Costa Rica. That was more than 30 years ago.
OK. All that as a lead in to the next thought. I left home when I turned 17. I spent 17 years living with my Mom. She was a great and wonderful influence. I was able to handle living by myself at 17, travel the US by myself, start college, be a committed Christian through it all because of her (and my Dad and family, of course). But somewhere along the line, I crossed over from where I had lived longer with the mother of my children than my own mother. Janice and I will be married 38 years this July.
After all these years, I am more of a “Usonian” (to use a Frank Lloyd Wright term for a person from the US) than a Costa Rican. When I first moved to the US, I longed to go back to Costa Rica. Now, I’m happier here. And, as I think about it, as much of a great and lasting impression my mother made on me, I now share the values, interests, and passions of Janice, the mother of my children. She is the woman who has had more influence on me now. And it occurs to me that our son will say the same soon about his wife – cue up
Disney’s “The Circle of Life.”
I don’t think the maternal role (or paternal role for that matter) ever stops. But it does have a season, and takes a subservient role at some point in the life of the child. This is what Genesis 2:24 talks about: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (NKJV).” I guess I want to salute all the Moms who have let their children go – they raised them so that they would be independent after all. And I want to salute all the Moms who are looking with a mix of excitement, dread,
anticipation, whatever, to that day somewhere in the future. Love on them hard!
But the idea that’s come to me as a pastor is that we become like the ones we spend the most time with. Costa Ricans had a great effect on me (both in quality and quantity). But I am much more of a Usonian now that I have spent all these years in the US. And likewise I am much more like Janice now than I am like my Mom. So, what about Jesus? How much time have I spent with Him? Have all these years of being a Christian made me look more like Him? More like Him than all the other people I hang out with? Who’s had the greatest influence on your life?
Pondering the question,
Craig
And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being changed into his likeness, from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 3:18